Hello all. I just wanted to update you all on what’s been going on. I still feel strongly at times that everything is okay, or at least that everything will be okay at some point and time. Then, there are times, where I’m not sure how things really are. It’s hard to gauge how Dylan is doing, because he is a pretty well-behaved boy at home. Sure, he’s high energy at times, but what little boy (or girl for that matter) isn’t? One-on-one, he’s a dream. I can do puzzles with him, we play games. He LOVES to learn, absolutely loves it. His mind is like a little sponge, it’s incredible what he can understand and what he can retain. It is so fun just even talking to him because he seriously amazes me each and every day.
Before the holidays, I met with his teachers and received his quarterly evaluations. Overall, there have been improvements. They would like to discharge him from speech completely, because they feel his time would be better spent in the classroom where his behavior can be a challenge at times. When reading one these reports, it’s honestly so hard not to focus on the negative. It really is. The daily feedback I get from his teacher is inconsistent, because Dylan is inconsistent. He has really great days. Then he has the days where he doesn’t listen, throws toys and pushes his friends. I sometimes wonder who this other kid is, because I just don’t ever get to see him. The classroom environment, the social pressures, dynamics and expectations there are very different then they are at home. Is he perfect? Of course not, no one is. Yet, I never get to see this other side of him, which confuses me even more.
I was home with Dylan for 17 days for the holidays. In that time, he did have more meltdowns then usual. i could tell that on the days where I had a very structured day planned out, things went very smoothly. For this reason, I tried my best to do this as much as possible. Since he has been back at school, he has “regressed” in the words of his teacher. He is not sitting still during circle time, and he is acting out. In recent weeks, I have been trying to plan out our summer, figuring out what weeks they’ll be in camp, what weeks they’ll be home with me. Turns out there will be none of this. I was planning to send him to a farm for summer camp, but his teacher thinks he needs more structure . She’s worried that being in environment like that could set him back for the big K. It’s hard to remember that what I think would be best for him, because it’s what I would want to do, and that its not always what is actually best for him. It’s so hard to keep reminding myself of this…that he’s just not the typical kid that I imagine him to be.
So there we have it. I have a CPSE meeting in a few weeks to discuss changes to his IEP. Let’s hope I make it through this one without shedding too many tears.